“Love is a light that guides us home.” – Rumi

Have you ever pondered the peculiar language we use when describing the onset of love? We often say things like “I am falling in love with her” or “I fell head over heels for him.” The common thread here is the act of falling—an uncontrolled descent that speaks volumes about the nature of love itself.

The True Nature of Love

Before we delve into the art of falling in love, let’s clarify a fundamental truth: love is not merely something we direct at a specific person or object. Rather, it’s a state of being—a radiant energy that permeates everything around it.

Think of love not as a spotlight, focused intently on one target, but as a floodlight—or better yet, like the sun itself. It spreads its warmth and light in all directions, touching everything in its path.

The polarity of love

To truly understand how to fall in love, we must first recognize its opposite. When we start to fall, our instinctive reaction is to stop ourselves—to grasp for something solid, to regain control. And therein lies a profound truth.

“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” – Elie Wiesel

While Wiesel’s quote is powerful, in the context of our discussion, I would interpret differently:

The antithesis of control is freedom, and this freedom is the wellspring of love. When we speak of “falling into love,” we’re acknowledging our helplessness in the face of this powerful force. We’re admitting that it happens of its own accord, beyond our control.

The Secret to Love

“Love is letting go of fear.” – Gerald Jampolsky

If freedom is the source of love, then the secret to experiencing it fully is clear:

While we can make choices that align with love and open ourselves to its possibility, ultimately, we must surrender to it. And isn’t this surrender the most exhilarating part of the experience?

“The moment you let go of it, you have more.” – Lao Tzu

In this state of release, life flows more smoothly and naturally. There is no more forcing, no more struggle against the current of our emotions.

The Path to Falling in Love

So, what’s holding you back from experiencing this profound state of love? Consider the following:

1. What narratives are you clinging to?
2. What expectations have you set?
3. What beliefs are limiting you?
4. What desires are you desperately grasping?
5. What identity are you afraid to let go of?

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Falling in love—truly, deeply, and freely—is both breathtakingly simple and profoundly challenging. It requires us to release our grip on control, to surrender our preconceptions, and to open ourselves to the vast, uncharted territory of the heart. Are you ready to take the plunge? To let go of the guardrails and free-fall into the depths of love? Remember, the most beautiful journey begins with a single step—or in this case, a single moment of letting go. What will you release today to open yourself to love?